Just saying !

There is nothing called true love.

There is love; or there is nothing. Love isn't like gold that comes in different form of purity. 'Purity' can't be an adjective to love. Love is just love.

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Paul Arockiam

Being judgmental and more !

Recently a random reader of my blog -- I use the word 'random' because I believe the reader happen to read my blog on a random selection -- commented saying, "you are judgmental one". I simply replied to her, "by saying me judgmental, aren't you realizing that you are judgmental (too)..?". She couldn't understand what I was saying, so she went on to blabber something else -- let's ignore the blabbering --.

I was surprised how such a simple derivation couldn't be understood. When one says the other person is judgmental, isn't that they are judging the other person by saying so, which by default makes them judgmental ? Why is it difficult so difficult to understand ?

To be honest, I wasn't offended having been marked as judgmental one. I tend to think nobody will because almost all of us judge people around us sometime or the other, which is part of human tenancy. I don't really know what's wrong with it. Mother Teresa said, "if we start judging people, we won't have time to love them". I somehow always believe that the statement should be taken as an advice to call for maturity rather than stop judging people because you really can't stop judging people. The mind does it unconsciously. Judging people need not necessarily be on negative aspect. I believe we judge people even when we say, "he is such a nice and sweet person". It is as equal to saying, "he is such a rude fellow".

The judging nature comes automatically to your mind when you start getting to know the person. What is really needed is, to look beyond what your mind judges. To feel compassionate towards the other person even when your judgment concludes something that isn't what you would favor. To have keep the judgment open, because people changes over a period of time -- on either sides. What is needed the most is the maturity to love them beyond what your subconscious mind judges them to be. That is called acceptance. At least that is what I think.

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Paul Arockiam

Just saying !

I think there is a reason why they say, "Don't say, just do it !!". In the process of saying, you end up perceiving as rude by showcasing your pride and also to get into more stressful situation -- a trap you have laid down for yourself. I see more disadvantage than finding motivation in the approach of 'say it before you do'.

One very reason why you should simply do it is because you must be doing something because you would like to do. Not because you would like to say it to the outside world loud and clear to get the attention. While that could very well be the purpose for many people, I tend to question such purpose for a person like me. I question what I gain, because I know the answer wouldn't be fulfilling in nature for a folk like me.

Secondly, I also think that you could focus more on what you want to do without any distractions by avoiding all such attention you may get by declaring your intentions much ahead of time.

Even in a war, I always think that the best strategy, sometimes, in conquering the kingdoms is simply attacking without declaring a war. You see, the purpose is to conquer, not to be nice to your enemies. By all means, they -- of course -- are responsible being alert all the time irrespective of whether or not someone has declared a war. Isn't it..?

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Paul Arockiam

Inspired Reading and Inner Voice

Inspired Reading:

"You don't need to have it all figured out to move forward." [ Author Unknown ]

Inner voice:

I could very well relate this to my everyday ride on the road. When I look at a traffic jam ahead of me from a far distance, it would always appear like how am I going to cross this traffic jam. But when I move forward, I have managed to find one way or the other to keep myself moving forward in my motor bike. I often tell to myself about this traffic jam incidents whenever I feel stressed out on choosing the path ahead to move further, whenever the path in front of me does not have clarity. I tell to myself, "even when the mists surrounds, the more closer, you go the clearer the things become".

This is no joking. Most of the times, what gives us the sigh of burden is just hanging onto theories we read in books. We always say tell to ourselves, or to others, that these theories won't suit to practical life. The fact is, we have never put these theories onto our practical life to test their results. When you are struck, almost always you most probably will have only two options in front of you. Do something or do something else. I shorten that to say, 'Do something or do something'. The drop of water ought to be running on the ground to keep the energy going, irrespective of the ups and downs it may face on it's way. Most of the theories are already in our life trying to teach us something. Trying to make us realize something that we often miss to notice.

I always say, an observing mind makes life easier. At the least, it doesn't make the life harder, because life can't get any harder than what it is right now. On a lighter note, an observing mind will also makes the life interesting. It helps you see the beauty of all complexities, the way those complexities are managed, the way life is and the way life isn't.

With no further words to read or think through, I think we can start to live our life. The dawn is already here.

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Paul Arockiam

So much to say about being good!

Being good is not good enough. But making someone accept that you are good is, a state you will never reach. Be good anyway, the least of best you could possibly be.

Again, remember that your goodness may not always be perceived as good at the other side for morality, which is subjective, defines what is good. Mind you, the morality always sets a high scale about good while receiving than giving.

People may take you for granted most of the time -- not all, if you are lucky -- for being good. But then isn't that the essence of being good..? People around are supposed to be free and understood. That is why, one chooses to be good. Isn't it..?

When a good person is gone, his absence is realized immediately. Because seeing a good person is not that easy. That's why everybody asks everyone else to be good. Good people are needed on earth because our ancestors have said that it rains in the places where good people live. But then nobody offers umbrella to a good person, because a good person is expected to offer things and never considered to be at receiving end, except of course appreciation to wake them up when they forget to be good.

I know of few good people. Actually more than just few. But I always wonder why it isn't raining where they live. Perhaps what I'm thinking as good may not be good enough. Or is the rain just a metaphor. It is pity that I don't clearly understand the language of our ancestors.

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Paul Arockiam