While very young, I used to wish every so called friend on Friendship Day. When I started growing mature, it occur to me that Friendship Day is a special day and therefore it would only make sense to wish those friends who are special in one way or other. It has become tradition in here that every 'known' person is called as friend and therefore the word 'friend' started losing it's significance. To compensate that, we started adding prefix to the word "good friends", "best friends", "close friends" etc which are supposedly be having it's own special significance themselves.
This is where I started having problem to wish on Friendship day. Ever since I started feeling that it is a special day and we are supposedly be celebrating those significant ones who make difference in our life and wish them on that day, it started drawing attention (in some ways, negative), envy, jealous and hatred from those whom we don't see as friends.
Few years back, I wrote a special poetic message on the Friendship Day and uploaded in Facebook tagging only those who have made a difference in my life as friends. Soon, I realized that it is likely to be seen as a controversial post from those other people whom I didn't tag since the post has become a public display of affection towards my real friends. So in order not to hurt any of those other people, I started tagging almost everyone and then a little later I removed all the tagging since I felt that just doesn't make sense.
That's when I decided perhaps Friendship Day, which draws the attention easily, need not be the only day when you let someone know that they are your valued friend and that they are special in your life. So I stopped wishing people on that day. After all, a wish to a person on Friendship Day hardly could mean something unlike where you have kept that person in your mind and heart.
Paul Arockiam.
03-Aug-2014.
This is where I started having problem to wish on Friendship day. Ever since I started feeling that it is a special day and we are supposedly be celebrating those significant ones who make difference in our life and wish them on that day, it started drawing attention (in some ways, negative), envy, jealous and hatred from those whom we don't see as friends.
Few years back, I wrote a special poetic message on the Friendship Day and uploaded in Facebook tagging only those who have made a difference in my life as friends. Soon, I realized that it is likely to be seen as a controversial post from those other people whom I didn't tag since the post has become a public display of affection towards my real friends. So in order not to hurt any of those other people, I started tagging almost everyone and then a little later I removed all the tagging since I felt that just doesn't make sense.
That's when I decided perhaps Friendship Day, which draws the attention easily, need not be the only day when you let someone know that they are your valued friend and that they are special in your life. So I stopped wishing people on that day. After all, a wish to a person on Friendship Day hardly could mean something unlike where you have kept that person in your mind and heart.
Paul Arockiam.
03-Aug-2014.
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