When an unfair argument is put forth against you, what choices you have? The choices get limited when you have to handle the argument without hurting or resenting the arguer. The choices get further limited when you prefer peace over arguments or debates. At the end, you will be left with no choice other than maintaining silence hoping that one day the arguer understands your point of view.
I used to get pushed towards the edge of shouting when an unfair argument is raised repeatedly. The anguish is how can they not understand. But to understand, one needs more than just the words being said, deeds being acted upon or the scenes being witnessed. It needs the awareness of the attributes of other persons shoes. But then it's given that it is needed for understanding. So that can be taken as an excuse for not exhibiting understanding. We may need to add willingness as another key requirement that facilitates understanding. But how can you convey that willingness is needed for understanding without offending the other person. May be, you never say that. You just hope that one day they come forward with willingness.
It is not the situation of helplessness that leads to silence and the desire to drop the argument. It's the desperate attempt to get back to peace as early as possible. But sometimes I'm made to wonder if one can attain peace without passing through the storm? Is it even possible to skip the storm? Wouldn't we all prefer that if there is even a tiny possibility for that? May be, a state like that is just a paradise of dream.
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Paul | பவுல்
I used to get pushed towards the edge of shouting when an unfair argument is raised repeatedly. The anguish is how can they not understand. But to understand, one needs more than just the words being said, deeds being acted upon or the scenes being witnessed. It needs the awareness of the attributes of other persons shoes. But then it's given that it is needed for understanding. So that can be taken as an excuse for not exhibiting understanding. We may need to add willingness as another key requirement that facilitates understanding. But how can you convey that willingness is needed for understanding without offending the other person. May be, you never say that. You just hope that one day they come forward with willingness.
It is not the situation of helplessness that leads to silence and the desire to drop the argument. It's the desperate attempt to get back to peace as early as possible. But sometimes I'm made to wonder if one can attain peace without passing through the storm? Is it even possible to skip the storm? Wouldn't we all prefer that if there is even a tiny possibility for that? May be, a state like that is just a paradise of dream.
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Paul | பவுல்
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