Keeping up the words!

My mother had always advised us to keep up the promises. Especially the ones we make to kids. She used to say that you shouldn't be the reason for a kid to loose its faith in promises. When you convince a kid to do something by promising something else, you should live upto your words when the kid finishes doing what you asked.

Thinking about what my mother asked of us, I can see that it has a very deeper meaning and effects. When a kid is innocent and trusting your words, it's really not right in any ethical way to disappoint the kid. The kid is going to learn that you won't keep up your words, and that's going to stay in their mind for life time. You are not only going to ruin their trust on promises but also likely to teach them that not keeping up one's word is normal. You are teaching an unethical practise to an innocent mind.

More than keeping up a promise, the essence of my mother's advise is that not to promise something that you would know that you aren't going to fulfil at the time of promising. Don't say you would do something when you know that you aren't going to do it. When you promise like that, you are not just doing something ethically wrong, but also doing something as bad as committing a sin.

Kids learn what we teach them. Their attitude and behaviour towards people and society changes based on how we behave with them. And there is a kid in every grown ups too. In any relationships when we promise something, especially when we know we wouldn't be fulfilling them, the feeling of disappointment and betrayal we are going to bring them later is going to affect their life in lot more ways than we could possibly imagine.

Now, why am I saying all this is a question to be. Don't we all need someone or something remind us of the rules? When we are too busy playing, we often tend to forget or overlook the rules. Don't we?

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Paul | பவுல்