I have been thinking about the long and busy weekend ahead. Planning and executing a personal event with family, friends and neighbours is always a likeable (is it?) thing to do. I'm very excited and equally anxieted (is that even a word? ha ha).
Though all arrangements have been made, my mind is busy with the thoughts and questions of 'did we miss anything?', 'can we do more?', 'should we increase or reduce the food count?' etc etc. I like being in such mood, because it means I'm into it. When you are into something, you make arrangements out of interest instead of forcing yourself to do it.
So, where should my focus be? Satisfying everyone? Well, that could be straightening dog's tail. Perhaps I should tune my focus on what not to do. As long as we don't upset anyone, that should be good enough. I'm thinking of people who normally volunteer to get upset. Don't laugh. There are people who volunteer themselves inviting the situation that could (or would) cause them distress.
While writing this, I'm reminded of a story that one of my friends once told me. When you give a piece of cake to people, the way in which they handle the cake depends on who they are and what makes them happy. Some gets excited and choose to eat it right away and enjoy the flavour, freshness of the cake and be joyful -- probably looking around to see if they can get some more. Some choose to keep it for a while, admire it, probably go through the feelings of gratitude and then eat it after a while. There are one or two people who will hold the cake gently in their hand and move around in people's way. In a short while, someone will accidentally knock them and the cake will fall on the floor. Everyone around that person will be sorry and sympathetic. Now the person who was holding the cake is happy (inside). What makes such person happy is others feeling sorry and sympathetic towards them. Such sympathy gives them more happiness than actually eating the cake. Now, how can you deal with such people. Perhaps when the cake falls, keep it to a small area instead of the cake spreading all over the floor. Because cleaning the floor is a damn difficult task. :-)
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Paul | பவுல்
Though all arrangements have been made, my mind is busy with the thoughts and questions of 'did we miss anything?', 'can we do more?', 'should we increase or reduce the food count?' etc etc. I like being in such mood, because it means I'm into it. When you are into something, you make arrangements out of interest instead of forcing yourself to do it.
So, where should my focus be? Satisfying everyone? Well, that could be straightening dog's tail. Perhaps I should tune my focus on what not to do. As long as we don't upset anyone, that should be good enough. I'm thinking of people who normally volunteer to get upset. Don't laugh. There are people who volunteer themselves inviting the situation that could (or would) cause them distress.
While writing this, I'm reminded of a story that one of my friends once told me. When you give a piece of cake to people, the way in which they handle the cake depends on who they are and what makes them happy. Some gets excited and choose to eat it right away and enjoy the flavour, freshness of the cake and be joyful -- probably looking around to see if they can get some more. Some choose to keep it for a while, admire it, probably go through the feelings of gratitude and then eat it after a while. There are one or two people who will hold the cake gently in their hand and move around in people's way. In a short while, someone will accidentally knock them and the cake will fall on the floor. Everyone around that person will be sorry and sympathetic. Now the person who was holding the cake is happy (inside). What makes such person happy is others feeling sorry and sympathetic towards them. Such sympathy gives them more happiness than actually eating the cake. Now, how can you deal with such people. Perhaps when the cake falls, keep it to a small area instead of the cake spreading all over the floor. Because cleaning the floor is a damn difficult task. :-)
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Paul | பவுல்
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